When choosing college majors or making decisions about professions to pursue, people may tell you, “I just don’t see you doing that” or “You should try xxx instead of yyy.” This can be really frustrating because usually their comments are based on their conditioning...read more
I have a confession to make. I’m an introvert. Most people don’t believe me when I say that—partly because they misunderstand what an introvert is and partly because they see me as social and open. But the truth is, I’m an introvert, and one of my least favorite...read more
Whenever you’re doing something that doesn’t fit the norm, people can get confused and sometimes they say things to you that don’t make any sense. Here’s an example of a conversation I once had at a cocktail party in Hong Kong to illustrate. New person: So, you work...read more
I went to an event for a global non-profit that I support. I was pretty excited because the event was the culmination of a week-long programme where innovators in the nonprofit space were honing their projects and creating pitches for donors who wanted to support...read more
From the moment we are born, others’ expectations shape our behaviors, choices, and definitions of success. We usually build our personal and professional lives around those expectations, and at some point, many of us start wondering if we are on the right path. We...read more
In a previous article, we talked about conditioning, which is the process by which you learn what is appropriate (and expected of you by others) and what is not. This conditioning starts basically at birth and continues through your formative years and into...read more
I want you to do a quick exercise. Imagine you see a wounded deer on the side of the road. What do you do? To be honest, I’m not particularly interested in what you do about the deer. I’m interested in what your road looked like. So, reflect for a moment. What did...read more
Because of our conditioning, we have implicit assumptions and biases that go with them. In other articles, I talk about construction workers and deers in the road to illustrate how we put cognitive frameworks and descriptions around situations that don’t have those...read more
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